Welcome back to our interview series, a chance to sit down and have a virtual conversation with another mama in the trenches like you, so that we can learn and grow together. Today I’m happy to say hi to Liz!
Hi! It’s so lovely to have you here. Can you introduce us a little to you and your family?
Hi, I’m Liz. I’m married to Joel and we have three children: Sam (8), Ivy (6), and Ben (4)
What things (big or small) do you love about life and motherhood right now?
I love seeing the children grow into their personalities and gifts. At the moment our eldest loves football. He plays for a local team and with the School. It’s great to see him thriving. My daughter Ivy is loving gymnastics. The littlest loves dancing. They are all really artistic as well and we love to encourage that. I am a writer and hand letterer and I like the balance that I find now. I have some time to myself to work on projects and it’s nicely broken up with days with Ben. I also like the rhythm of the school day and 3pm is a nice time to stop and go and get the children.
Motherhood has for me been such a big learning curve! Can you share one thing that motherhood has taught you about yourself (so far!) ?
That I was so selfish before! Honestly it was such a lesson to me to put someone’s needs before my own all the time. It’s hard as a mum because it’s easy to feel like a non person, but we and our children need to know that we are people too!
How have you seen the harder parts of motherhood impact you?
It’s easy to complain. When my daughter was 2 and a half and our littlest was 6 weeks old, she was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. It was so scary and such a shock. I realised how precious life is. And since then, I haven’t really slept much! It’s a relentless condition that demands attention 24-7. We long for a cure!
What advice would you love to give your young mama self?
To travel more. Now that we have Type 1 on the scene, everything is so much more complicated. I wish we’d travelled when it was a bit easier. Over the years, I have learned that all mums are different. I spent a lot of time worrying that my son fought with other children or that my daughter didn’t sleep through the night, I worried about whether we did enough play dates, but it’s all comparison and it’s kind of pointless. All of our children are unique, there are no formulas, and we are all unique as mamas too! So I think the advice I would give is to find your own rhythm. We are all different.
What fills you up ready for another day (or hour!) of motherhood?
Honestly? One-liner prayers and strong cups of tea!
How do you find breathing room in motherhood?
I’m in a different phase now, out of the crazy years. One autumn we had a baby, moved house then had Ivy’s diagnosis back to back. So we had three preschoolers and were trying to get to grips with Type 1. That was full on.. but now I have three days where Ben is at preschool, and a bit of space for my projects. My latest one was a book of hand lettered poems about motherhood. You can find here. I also journal when I am finding things hard or stressful and that helps me to process my feelings and to make sense of them.