Today is the beginning of a new series, Mama Time- which is a chance to have a virtual sit down and chat with another mama, share thoughts and reflections on motherhood and mental space. I am looking forward to sharing lots of different mamas and the variety that motherhood has for us.
Today I am happy to be chatting with Ruth of Rejoicing Heart, a lady who has become a sweet friend online.
Hello! It’s so lovely to have you here. Can you introduce us a little to you and your family?
Hello, I’m Ruth, I’m a Christian and married to my soul mate Pete. By background I’m a Speech and Language Therapist working with acutely unwell adults , but now I’m a full time Mummy to a beautiful, bouncy boy who will be 3 very soon. We also have a second precious baby who lives in heaven. In my spare time I love to cook, bake, sing, read, spend time outdoors and hand letter.
What things (big or small) do you love about life and motherhood right now?
My little boy is such a chatterbox, he makes us smile every day and has been a ray of sunshine on those darker days we’ve had since we miscarried our second child. At the moment we are finding gratitude in the small things that before we may have missed or taken for granted.
Motherhood has for me been such a big learning curve! Can you share one thing that motherhood has taught you about yourself (so far!) ?
How much I need Jesus in my life!! I need Him every hour!! There’s so many flaws I’ve seen in myself since becoming a mother, humbling me and reminding me of my daily need to seek His forgiveness, help and strength. Yet, also I’ve known a great liberty and joy in humbling myself and asking Him to work in and through me. It’s amazing to know that God is at work in us if we are true believers and that every season has a purpose and isn’t wasted.
How have you seen the harder parts of motherhood impact you?
The harder parts of motherhood have always brought me to my knees and back to Jesus. So often I’ve tried to fix the hard things myself, googling, strategising, planning …. I’ve not let God be God, but rather have tried to be God myself. Hannah Anderson calls this the “messiah complex” in her brilliant book “Humble Roots“. She helpfully points out that when we set ourselves in God’s place we only “reap stress, restlessness and anxiety”.
I really love that book too. If you could go back in time, what advice would you love to give your young mama self?
God first, every day. Be in the Word, fill your mind with the truth of the Word, so that you can speak truth to yourself. Close your day with God, remembering He sees you and smiles as He sees you in Christ!
What fills you up ready for another day (or hour!) of motherhood?
Prioritising reading the Bible . Being connected to God through the day , audio scripture , podcasts, Christian music and being out and about in nature.
And finally, how do you find breathing room in motherhood?
Getting outside into the beautiful world God has made. My little boy and I love talking about what we are enjoying in Creation. So, for example he often tells me how beautiful the trees are or asks me to listen to the birds as they sing praise to God. Being outdoors and praising God for His Creation really helps me to reset and focus on the eternal. It revitalises me in so many ways and encourages me to keep pressing on towards Heaven!
Thanks so much for your time and insights into what motherhood means to you, Ruth! You can find Ruth and her encouragements on instagram.