Welcome back to the Refresh Series- a series of posts to refresh and encourage us in motherhood- whether we are in the middle of one season or beginning a new one.
This is part 2- you can catch up on Part 1 here – yesterday we took stock of where we are at, the importance of recognising seasons and counting joys.
One of the greatest joys and hardest thing about motherhood how quickly our children grow and change before our eyes. We have the need to constantly adapt as our children get a little older and change a little more each day.
I find that being so close to my little ones means that I can miss some of the smaller ways they are changing. Seeing them make amazing developmental leaps when they begin to walk, learn new words and progress into school is so exciting, but there are smaller things happening day by day that we can overlook in the busyness of day to day living.
So when it seems like there are so many things to remember, so many balls to juggle and it feels like all we can do to get into bed and wake up and try again the next day, how can we find refreshment not just for ourselves but in the way we see our children?
Step four : see how far you’ve come
Look back, even a couple of months. Looking through pictures, videos and things we have written down suddenly makes us see how small changes have added up and they’ve grown, even in the past few months, weeks even. It can be easy to be so focused on today or tomorrow that we forget how far they have come, and how far we have come too. While we don’t want to spend all our time being wistful for times gone it always helps me to remember that these are the days, that right now is where I want to be with them and seeing them, truly seeing them as they are.
I love to flick back to the previous Season Refresh in my journal and read what I wrote about my little ones there. My ‘little ones’ page in my season refresh is part way through. I love this precious time to sit and reflect on where they are right now, and see the fruit in our lives, when often motherhood doesn’t feel very productive or measurable. Seeds are being planted and growing in them in the daily moments as we pour out for them.
Step five: see them right now
Whenever you read this, see if you can take a few minutes just to watch your children, and really see them. Notice their voice, the way they move, the things that they love to spend their time on. It can be hard to carve out time to sit and rest with them, or play intentionally together as often as we would like (this is one of the things I have enjoyed the most during the Christmas holidays).
And when they are in bed, or at school, or you can find some quiet moments, take some time to write it down so that you can look back at it in days, months or years to come.
Whether you do this in your diary, a notebook, The Mama Book or in notes on your phone, make sure you take time to document what life and your little ones are like right at this moment. They change faster than we know, and you’ll never regret taking a few minutes to capture their childhood and your motherhood.
Don’t forget you can get free shipping with the code FREESHIP and make sure you’re feeling refreshed all year with a self care calendar and year long journal to give you mental space through the changing seasons of motherhood. Come back tomorrow for Part Three!