The Mama Book is over a year old now- but it was born far before that, in a moment when desperate to get rid of the thoughts crowding my mind, that I never had time to properly processs, I grabbed an empty notebook and began filling in titles, pages, things I knew I needed to work through and process. The journal took time to develop, to be shared with others and flesh out- and it has been in the world for over a year in its current form.
Why a journal?
Writing is significant
There is something unique about writing something with your own handwriting, down on paper, that gets thoughts out of your head and allows you to process, reflect and remember them differently to those that are typed or thoughts held.
Frees up space in your head
Giving yourself permission to write down and reflect on motherhood- as a whole, or the minutae or your day, allows your brain a bit more space for other things. Instead of having a load of thoughts that are half formed, waiting for a time when you might be able to come back and address them, journaling gives those things permission and space to breathe- in turn giving your brain a bit of mental space too.
Gives you a physical space to process motherhood
So much of motherhood is intangible- the love and care, the concern about decisions, friendships, development. We do daily tasks which are repeated over and over and rarely have anything to show for our efforts- except that our children are still alive! Having a journal gives us a physical space to process the immensity and the joy of motherhood. Whether you’re having the best family day or just clinging on, you can sit, pause and reflect on the good and the bad, with a physical place to leave all those thoughts. I know that writing things down helps me sleep so much better, as my brain isn’t trying to hold onto things.
Less overwhelming than a blank page
I love to write and process but I barely did any during those early years with babies and toddlers- until my third child was born. The blank page was overwhelming- or I would just write about my struggles. It helped, but I realised I needed a space with more structure and promots to keep me focused on the good things, a way to think helpfully about the challenges and to reflect and plan on each season. The way The Mama Book is set out means that each section has prompts, questions or titles so it’s not just a blank baby book or journal for you to have to write reams of words in. With big picture pages to help you process the bigger things of motherhood, and season refresh planning and reflection pages, you won’t be sat staring at an empty page wondering whether to write ‘dear Diary’ as if you were an awkward preteen again!
It’s a tangible keepsake with a year of growth, joys and life as a mama
The sweetest thing is taking time to look back at a year well lived, with different seasons of motherhood flitting past us, sometimes. Having a journal with so many sweet snippets of life with my little ones, reflections on what they are like at different ages, and lessons I have learned through mothering that year has been so good for me. It’s not always pretty, there are struggles as well as pages and pages of joys- but each journal tells a story of a year lived with love and intention through that stage of mothering.
It’s always fun to have pretty notebooks and stationery- but this is more than just paper, it’s an invitation to give yourself some breathing room. Find journals in the shop here.